What to do when you want to give up…..
Discouragement; tears and feeling overwhelmed. Sometimes entrepreneurs feel so drained, so challenged that they want to give up.
I spoke with 2 entrepreneurs this past week. One just sat in tears as she shared her situation; the other shared his state of discouragement verbally with me. In both cases, they hit a “wall of adversity”
Here are some thoughts about what to do when you want to give up. Remember that while there are rarely instant solutions, there are very real things we can do to impact the long run! (Some material used with thanks to Lifehack)
Our brains are wired to giving up easily, its normal (but not all right). Human beings are believed to act upon the “Pleasure Principle”, the instant gratification. Instant gratification is the desire to experience pleasure or fulfilment without delay or deferment. Basically, it’s when you want it; and you want it now.
We are very much present-oriented, and so when we’re not getting what we want immediately, we get anxious and want to give up. Yes, so once in a while, wanting to give up is normal. But giving up is not okay.
Maybe you’re disappointed or tired because you haven’t succeeded yet after lots of trials, but don’t you give up yet because nothing worth having comes easy. Giving up makes you lose more things than you can imagine.
Instant success is a myth, always. Many successful people failed hundreds of times, if they chose to give up instead of working harder to reach their goals, they would never succeed.
For example, Walt Disney had been fired by a newspaper editor before because he “lacked imagination and had no good ideas.” If he gave up imagining and dreaming about big ideas, he wouldn’t have found the successful Disney business.
Here are 5 things to consider and do……
- Remember the Why of your start up or venture.
Recall to mind the purpose and dream you had. Revive the sense of excitement and motivation you experienced at the start. Remind yourself of the value of pushing on, and not giving up. Reconnect with your why.
- Look into the reason why you want to give up.
When you experience being overwhelmed, you can attribute this to a blanket of causes. But push in. The blanket feeling isn’t clear; look at the reasons why you want to quit. Are you physically tired? Have you been consumed with things and not taken care of yourself in the process? Do you feel little support? Are you lacking ability? Have you come up against some difficulties that you are unprepared for? Do you need to just take a step back before continuing on?
There are many reasons why you may want to give up. Be diligent in figuring out what the real issues are and tackle them specifically.
- Picture in your mind the ultimate result.
Focus forward and learn from mistakes. Always keep the main thing….the main thing! Imagine yourself controlling a drone that rises above the limited perspective you can see, and flies to a height where you can see the big picture. Don’t trade the big picture for the small snapshot distracting you
- Make a plan and have a backup.
As Mike Tyson said, “Everybody has a plan… until they get punched in the mouth” The point being, the more prepared you are, with margin built into your plan, the better you are able to navigate the inevitable storms you will face.
- Find support from others.
Successful entrepreneurs attest to many things that contributed to their success. One common denominator is that of a strong supportive environment. No one gets to the level of achievement they do without the support of others. Use your social and friendship circles to build and bed down the support you need when discouraged and overwhelmed. “I believe that we all have a responsibility to give back. No one becomes successful without lots of hard work, support from others, and a little luck. Giving back creates a virtuous cycle that makes everyone more successful.” Ron Conway
Here’s to all those resilient readers out there!